Dedicated to Joy! Written a few years ago. I hope you treasure your true friends, my best friend Joy, is home in heaven. I miss her everyday.
Do you have a true friend?
There are certain people who will be brought into your life, and years later you will look back and say, “ Never saw us being friends” then you will laugh.
That is what my true best friend and I commented after a recent visit. To be perfectly honest we could not stand each other. We had both admitted to our spouses, “I can’t stand her, she is so ughhh”, I hope she never comes back.
Our husbands introduced us in my front yard before my wedding. We were complete opposites of each other. Despite my best attempts to ignore my new neighbor, every time I turned around, we were bumping into each other. We each were cringing when we saw one another, and out of a moment of madness I invited her and her husband to my wedding. Down the aisle, I walked. Little did I know, she would be my beam of support, in years to come?
Over the next few years, we tolerated one another, got along sometimes and cooked out once in a while. Then in 2003, I found a lump in my breast, she prayed for me, and it turned out to be a cyst that had to be removed, she told me I was healed by God, it was she who made sure I had what I needed after my surgery, as my husband was to busy to look after me. Then I had a colon scare, she prayed and it was a small polyp and was removed, again she took care of me.
My daughter was 14 and rebellious, she made me learn how to laugh at it, and turn that situation around.
During this time my husband was drinking hard, disappearing for days, I prayed he would not kill anyone or himself, as it was his habit to drive drunk. My husband abandoned me for his friends, his drinking, and eventually, for getting high, I saw my husband and two brothers, all in the course of a year go from great men too, men I no longer recognized or knew. My best friend’s husband was caught in this spiral as well.
We stood together as friends, supporting one another. It was my friend, who after my husband left, showed up with food to feed my child, as she had been by earlier in the day, and it was a bad habit of hers to go through my cupboards, which turned into a good thing, as I had to much pride to tell her we were on the verge of going hungry. We had no money. That same day she showed up with six bags of groceries and we were feed. In 2003, I was in a wreck and totaled my vehicle. Pernament siactic nerve damage. My friend was there for me, in my pit of despair, in situations beyond my control. I was so battle fatigued, my friend told me about a church of truth and if I wanted God, I could find him there. She practically lead me there as she herself fought her own demons and battles. While struggling in her darkest hours, she was telling me of a loving God and a church where you could feel the spirit of God move, where people jumped and praised and worshipped in spirit, and spoke in tongues. I had never heard of or seen a church like this one she described.
I was scared, afraid and my fear was intense. However, my need for God was greater!
In November 2003, my friend and her husband took me to my first service in a Pentecostal church. Within a few weeks I was filled with the Holy Spirit, and in December of 2003, I was baptized in Jesus name.
My life swiftly began to change and God showed me the areas to clean up and I obeyed. I am by no means perfect and I am still a work in progress, for I know the potter is molding the clay to make me who I was destined to be, a child of God.
As two woman bound by circumstances beyond our control, we watched our lives pivot out of control, our husbands abandoned us then left to our own recourse, we both lost our homes to foreclosuer. At this point we couldn’t even help each other. We lost contact with each other.
During this time of abandonment I lost my job, I had a lot of spare time on my hands. I would go to church daily and try to pray, at first I did not know how to pray. I began to listen as others prayed and my ears opened and I learned from my brother and sisters in Christ and mainly my pastor. What a great teacher!
I missed my friend, I was having a serious surgery and did not know how to reach her, one-day my phone rang and it was her, she had found my number. I was so happy to hear her voice, she was safe , happy and living out of town with her brother. I told her of my upcoming surgery, and she immediately made arrangements to come stay with me to take care of me. She was a saint and waited on me hand and foot.
I do not see my true friends flaws as others do, I see her from the inside out, for her heart, the love she shows the misfortune and finally, very soon, I will be able to help her. She is going on her first missions trip to Belize Mexico in February, and I have been entrusted with her sweet lab, Charmin, her child, and will take care of her baby, so she can do God’s work in a foreign country. When I look at my true friend, I see this woman who has a pure heart and a love for others with one of the most giving natures I have been blessed to witness. She has very little in worldly processions, yet always manages to give me something when I see her. She is a true proverbial woman, looking after the interests of others before her own.
The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.
I have told these things to you to remind you that sometimes what we see on a person outside is not what God has put on the inside. Make sure you always take an opportunity, to get to know a new person and look at the inside, at the heart, give them a chance, as people are not brought into our lives by chance but maybe just by a higher purpose.
NIV-Philippians 2:1-4 Imitating Christ’s Humility
1 If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, 2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than you. 4 Each of you should look not only to your own interests but also to the interests of others
Thank you Lord for my True Best friend!