The”B” Word

Confession time, a quandary found its way to my front door. Two women who I felt disrespected me on occasion tried to dishonor my character as a woman by spreading gossip that led me down the rabbit hole on a path to a southern meltdown. Adults and children, when continually tormented, go into a mode of self-protection. I would soon find myself betrayed by my own emotions. When one of these women came at me again, my righteous anger took over! When she called me the vulgar “B” word, I felt justified, letting that same word roll off my tongue, calling her one right back! 



 I failed to walk away, and when that “B” word slipped out my mouth, I was grinning like the Cheshire Cat on Alice in wonderland! Then panic struck, what had I done? I failed God by acting in the flesh! 

My anger shocked me to my core. I slapped my hand over my mouth like my momma would have done back in the day, running to my car. What else could I do but leave? 

I can’t take back what I have spoken. God warns us to be careful with our words as they are life and death. I repented before God. I am very sorry I said “B” word, moving forward. Calling my bully the vulgar “B” word I found it didn’t change anything, except it stirred up her anger even more. I took the whole matter to God, laid it at his feet! This time, I remained quiet, asking the person to leave. 

Surprisingly, the person left! 

A gentle answer does indeed turn away wrath.

Proverbs 15- A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly. The eyes of the LORD are everywhere, keeping watch on the wicked and the good.

I post this for all women of every race, “*B” stands for Beautiful, you are uniquely and wonderfully made, every woman is Beautiful, and you are God’s Beloved!! 

Women let’s not degrade each other with the vulgar “B” word. We are all sisters of the Human Race. Lets take a Stand, put up boundaries, let our “no” mean “no!” Let’s promise to the best of our ability to never say the vulgar “B” word to another woman. All women are *Beautiful!” Hard lesson learned.


Psalm 141:3 New International Version (NIV)

Set a guard over my mouth, Lord;
    keep watch over the door of my lips.

18 thoughts on “The”B” Word

  1. Debbie, we all have weaknesses. If someone says they don’t, then you know what their weakness is…(lying) We will fight them till we leave this old world for our new mansion! But when I fall, I shall arise!…when we fall 7 times, we get back up 8 times. We repent, keep trying, praying, fasting, reading the Word—just like you are doing. 👏🏼 God knows this flesh is weak, and He is not a God that cannot be touched by the feeling of our infirmities! He knows! He cares! I love your honesty my friend and I love you! I love that you turned it around for good—Beautiful, Brilliant, Bold!!!—this is you my friend!

    I’m sorry someone is treating you this way…I pray that God changes their stony heart and strengthens yours! 💜💛😇

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    1. Sweet Sister Renee, How you encourage me to always rise up and look ahead, I am fortunate to have a friend who always reaches down to pull me up when I fall, there is no truer a friend than one who will get in the mud with you and pull you out! I think I feel an article forming from that analogy, a blessing to you, and thank you for your uplifting kind words!

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      1. Ooh!!! I can’t wait for that great post you are about to share! 🙌🏼😁
        You re welcome! I could not count the days you have lifted me, as well. Iron sharpeneth iron! We sure have both been in some muddy waters, haven’t we? 😆

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  2. I understand completely. We are forgiven but still human. But realizing what you did is what makes the difference! (B)eautiful, (B)rilliant, and (B)old!

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  3. I don’t judge you!

    I dropped a u-joint bearing yesterday and little needle bearings went everywhere… I wanted to say more than a few choice words… but I kept praying about it and trying to let Him help me through it.

    I’m still aggravated about that. But there’s nothing I can do. Just pray He helps me and blesses me.

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